what should i do.

[lilkimmy]

i met my partener 7 years ago but for the last 2 years he has start contrilong me he hates me going out on my own he wants me to spend all my time with him im not happy with him when ever i tell him i want to end it he turnes it all around and puts the blame on me im only 24 he is 39 what should i do.

[Han]

Hi its tough when relationships turn on you after such a long time. Have you sat down and spoken to him about your fears? If you have and it asnt got anywhere have yuo tried writting to him and explaining it? The other thing I could suggest to you is prehaps going to stay with your parents for a week and getting some distance between you no contact just make him think a little have a break but make sure you explain why your doing it. Reassure him its because you want things to work for you both but he needs to realise that your not a persession but an equal partener a loved one and you wish to be treated as such. Before I close did you give him reason to lose his trust in you???

[johnfranklyn]

As always Han has hit the nail squarely on the head.

Some would describe this as being the seven year itch, if talking does work, then putting it in writing is a good idea and sometimes putting space between you works, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

[lilkimmy]

we sat down last night and talked about it he said he will try his best to changes his ways but i just know if we have a future together

[johnfranklyn]

I'm glad you do have a future together. All relationships take work. I feel the secret of a good relationship is when you look back at your years together, you mainly remember the good times, I feel that is a sign of a good future.

[Han]

I sure hope it works out for you guys good luck and come back if you need to.

[Sadgirl09]

Dump him. NOW. SILLY WOMAN