HUbby out of work

My hubby lost his job a couple of years ago, since then I have been working to support him and our child. It has come to light that we have been overpaid in benefits and need to pay it back however my husband is being very choosy about what jobs he may consider taking. I think he should do what he can to provide for his family and find a job that suits him when he is working again, but he won't. It's really frutrating as I have been supporting him in every way possible for the past few years and I now need that support from him. Am I asking too much?