caring for my partners nephew

[voluntarycarer]

his mother has her kids removed and her youngest child is placed with myself and my partner.. it has been 4 months now and she sees him in a contact centre via social services but she hasnt turned up for quite a few of the contacts, she has a heavy drinking problem. Me and my partner have been caring for this child and getting a lot of abuse/problems from his mother. it looks as if he will be with us for at least another 4 months.. how can we get his mother to see sense and see what we are doing for her? she has such a beauitful baby boy (he is 14months) and all we want is for her to sort herself out as he really belongs with her not us. we are doing this for his sake so that he is not put into care.. to be honest it has been very hard, we had no experience of children before and to take on a 1yr old with no preperation etc was very hard and our life has been made difficult (of course he isnt to blame he is the victim in all this) but his mother sees me and my partner as bad people... why cant she sort herself out?? (

[joanne3970]

hi at the moment she wont know wat she has lost in away as she is so stuck on her drinking and social life ,the way  she will do it is to admit to her  self she has a problem she will hate you both as your bringing her child up and deep down she knows she should be the one doing it thats maybe why she is drinking ,but only she can help her self and at least the child is in safe hands with you i admire you for doing it but the more she dont show up to her meetings to see him the more she wont ever see him again ,maybe theres more going on in her own mind and she dont know how to seek help , i hope in away you understand wat i have wrote but its only her that can help herself and will blame others for how things have gone,hope this helps a little