please be a good mum and sort your self out

[mum2all]

my daughter is 23 and has a beautifull son,but all she does is sit on her bum all day and lets him watch tv.hes 3 and still in nappies and not even potty taining,she doesnt  even go to toddler class or play school,she palms him off to whoever and he goes to his grandmas every fortnight for a week maybe more.she goes out at weekends and brings home a differant man each time,so far my grandson has had 4 stepdads in his life...i try to talk to her and help but it gets thrown back in our face all the time,she has not spoke to her dad for a few months now and we oly see her when we go to her house.she thinks more of my grandsons other family and tells them we are always on at her,they love this as they get to see ther grandson more,,we are at the end of our thether with her

[Han]

Well there are a few options here one is that she goes to the doctors because it sounds as if she could have postnatal which comes in many different forms. Once on meds she will be able to attend councilling and find that parent within. Or you contact social services and see if they can get involved in helping her people always pull away from those who are trying to help its a defence people are offern scared of facing themselves when they feel the way she could be feeling. Or last but not least get a lawyer and go for your rights as a grand parent as you do have rights. Take her to court for a regular contact with the child and the court may even force her to seek some help for what ever problems she is facing. This may not be the best option as she has to admit a problem before facing it. I do believe though the doctors should be the first port of call. She MUSTNT BE ALLOWED TO NEGLECT HER CHILD ITS ABUSE

[johnfranklyn]

Han has made some good points and postnatel depression is a very valid and is not to be taken lightly. It is an illness and can be treated.

What has happened to the childs biological father is he prepared to give support to his child?

Could I suggest that you talk with the other grand parents and find some common ground to work on, I would suggest that you both want the best for your daughter and the grand child is the common ground. You have this in common, use it as an effective tool and don't let it become an issue that divides you.

[Han]

Good idea john a family disscussion would be good but prehaps set it up via mediation to prevent any form of confrontation and whatever agreement that is made is documented and if ever needed bringable to court.