MY SON

[KHALIL]

HELLO ALL
TILL READING THEASE POSTINGS ABOUT YOU POOR PEOPLE WITH KIDS OUT OF CONTROLL I THOUGHT THAT MY SON WAS OUT OF CONTROLL HE IS 15 AND SMOKES AND HAS ONLY BEEN DRUNK ONCE IN HIS WHOLE LIFE, I SUPPOSE I HAVE TO THANKFULL FOR HOW WELL  BEHAVED MY SON REALLY IS. IT HAS REALLY OPENED MY EYES TO THE PEOPLE WHO HAVE REALLY GOT PROBLEMS X GOOD LUCK TO ALL YOU PARENTS X JOANNE

[chritler]

No, your son's atrocious behaviour should not be accepted just because there are others who you believe to be worse.

That would be like saying "Wow, I thought Ian Huntley was bad, but then I read about Myra Hindley.  I'll let him off, we should be thankful, really".

Your son needs to be punished.  I suggest that whenever he does something bad, you feed him gruel for a week.  That's what my parents did to me, and it worked remarkably well.  Also, when he is good, give him treats, such as a cheesestring or roast duck, for example.

[Han]

Hi Khalil Yes your son is better behaved then most but by letting this happen you ae saying its ok. How about you try a few different tacktics to resolve it. Firstly I would insist that he get a weekend job one that will have him to tired to go out of a saturday nigth prehaps labouring for a local builder. Then I would suggest that if he get himself drunk you take away his most prized possession and tell him that whilst you know he is going to do this but you wont except it as good behaviour its not what you want for him and if he can learn to sociallise without bending to pear pressure then he can have it back. Or get new friends because anyone decent and worth their weight wouldnt behave like that anyways

[Jade Winter]

hi i am fifteen and i did once smoke but fankfully i have given up nw , sometimes i do get drunk but i dnt cause any voilence or anything.......i think teens try out drink and fags ............i dnt fink there is any harm with that.....!!!!

[Han]

Well Jade then sadly you need to do  little growing up for one your breaking the law by doing theses things. Its not clever getting drunk at your age your doing damage to your body that in 5 10 maybe 15 yrs time will come back on you. Your body is still developing. I think its sad that young people of today fill their friday nights up by getting smashed

[johnfranklyn]

I'm glad you don't cause problems Jade and I certainly welcome your honesty.

As a 15 yr old, I never drank, but that was 30 yrs ago and times have changed since then, some for the better, some for the worse.

I do feel that many young people get bad press to easily nowadays and all because of the minority.

Do watch the booze though, it can be addictive, but at the same time, enjoy yourself, I do appreciate its a fine balancing act for young people now.

[chritler]

I'm glad you don't cause problems Jade and I certainly welcome your honesty.

As a 15 yr old, I never drank, but that was 30 yrs ago and times have changed since then, some for the better, some for the worse.

I do feel that many young people get bad press to easily nowadays and all because of the minority.

Do watch the booze though, it can be addictive, but at the same time, enjoy yourself, I do appreciate its a fine balancing act for young people now.

Wow, I didn't see you as a 55 year old.  

Then again, you are so wise.  It would seem that once the 50 mark is reached, a person reaches a very high level of wiseness.  

No-one below the age of 50 seems to have the life experience.

[Han]

Chritler I wouldnt quiet say no one under the age of 50 has had the life experience I think Ive had enough to last me a life time. Its not about age that makes someone wise but how they use the knowledge they obtain. John is a great guy with an abundance of knowledge in many areas I wish my father had been like him growing up life would of been so different

[chritler]

Chritler I wouldnt quiet say no one under the age of 50 has had the life experience I think Ive had enough to last me a life time. Its not about age that makes someone wise but how they use the knowledge they obtain. John is a great guy with an abundance of knowledge in many areas I wish my father had been like him growing up life would of been so different

Yes, you're right, but I believe that most people below the age of 50 are less wise than those above it.

Obvious exceptions would be Jeremy Kyle, Bobby George and James Smedley.  You too, of course, but I'm just picking celebrities that everyone on here will know a lot about.

[Han]

lol fare play well its all good hope your having a good day )

[shadyfish]

Hi I would say that with the social decline in todays sosiaty the youth of today have a compleatly different onlook to life. I was brought up in a time where respect for others was given to our pears as a matter of course were as todays youth culture means you have to earn it. yes you have been lucky, now this could be due to good pairenting as well as the area that you live. The pear presure on the youth of today forces childre/teenagers to fight for their position within their group and the urban culture has become a very dangerious plase for everyone. Acess to alchol  and to drugs is so prolific and urban decline both social and economical so bade one thinks it could be even worse. I have friends in central London, Brockly, Lewisham and I can tell you I would not walk the streets there now. I think we need a way to give these young adults and children a new direction and certanly mor resorses and I can but fill that Political corectness has been taken too far and become a big instigator of social segregation and gang culture. There is a lot to be said for the expreshion "the good old days" because anybody of my age 48 grew up in those days. As a pairent of 3 sons i made it a point to be a dad when needed but a best friend as well and if you spend tim to understand you children rather than punishing them you can deal mor easaly with the situation and help guide them to a better future, and any pairent knows you tell a child no and it will do the opposit. hope that help, good luck. Shadyfish

[Rox]

I do think all children try drinking and smoking, and yes it`s not good and they shouldn`t be impressed!!
But..... I also think...If you go on at your child about not doing it and when they do u punish them,This is what makes them do it alot more!!

[Han]

Rox you make a good point but I do think by not guiding them and giving them good senible choices that they will also take that as a green light and also go right ahead and do it. As parents we have to find ways to educate our kids and give them the tools to make right decisions in all aspects of life.