i neeed help

[love gareth(ma sexy boyfriend)]

my temper is out of control.i cannot control it at all.i go in a rahe n then i dont even know ive made people upset.my boyfriend is trying to help me but i need some anger management that will help.none of my family want to know me now and i feel that the only person i have in life is my boyfriend, i need jeremys help but am too scared to cum on the show.

[Han]

You dont need to go on the show there are many groups and theropys you can do and go to. You should go and visit your GP and allow them to guide you in the right direction. Whatever help they offer you keep an open mind. If its pills this isnt always a bad thing they are just used to balance you out allow you to be able to find what it is that triggers your anger. Good luck

[Blue]

Love Gareth,this sounds like it may be more a medical issue than a psychological one. Have you had any tests for this.?
An acquaintance of mine,many years ago,started flying into uncontrollable,aggressive rages of which she had no recollection later. A few simple diagnostic tests revealed a chemical imbalance had developed and she was fine in no time at all.
Worth looking into

[ADHD Chris]

Hello, is this anger a short term thing or has it always been there since childhood?

For example,
 Diagnosing ADHD in adults is more problematic than it is in children because there is no definitive list of symptoms that can be applied to an adult who potentially has the condition.

If you think you may have adult ADHD, you should see your GP, who may refer you to a specialist. They will ask you about your present symptoms, but under the current diagnostic guidelines, a diagnosis of adult ADHD cannot be confirmed unless your symptoms have been present from childhood.

In order for your specialist to decide on your diagnosis, they may ask you about your childhood, and whether your symptoms were present then. If you find it difficult to remember, or you were not diagnosed with childhood ADHD at the time, your specialist may wish to see your old school records, or talk to your parents, teachers or anyone else who knew you well when you were a child. If your problems are recent, and did not occur regularly in the past, you are not considered as having adult ADHD.

Were there any of these childhood symptoms?
The symptoms of ADHD in children and adolescents are well defined. The main symptoms of each behavioural problem are detailed below.

Inattentiveness
a very short attention span,
being very easily distracted,
being unable to stick at tasks that are tedious, or time consuming,
being unable to listen to, or carry out, instructions,
being unable to concentrate, and
constantly changing activity, or task.

Hyperactivity
being unable to sit still, especially in calm or quiet surroundings, constantly fidgeting,
being unable to settle to tasks, and excessive physical movement.

Impulsiveness
being unable to wait for a turn,
acting without thinking,
breaking any set rules, and little or no sense of danger.

If your child has ADHD, their symptoms usually become noticeable at around the age of five. ADHD can cause many problems in your child's life, and can often lead to underachievement at school, poor social interaction with other children and adults, and problems with discipline.

Although it is not always the case, your child may also have and had other problems, or conditions alongside ADHD. These are detailed below.

Anxiety disorder
Some children with ADHD may have an anxiety disorder which causes them to worry and to be nervous much of the time. Your child may also have physical symptoms, such as a rapid heartbeat, sweating and dizziness.

Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)
Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) is defined by negative and disruptive behaviour, particularly towards authority figures, such as parents and teachers. It is common among children with ADHD.

Conduct disorder
Children who have conduct disorder have a tendency towards highly antisocial behaviour, such as stealing, fighting, vandalism, and harming people and animals. If your child is behaving in this way, you should seek professional help as soon as possible.

Depression
It is possible for children who have ADHD to become depressed as a result of their condition.
Sleep problems
Children with ADHD, who are very hyperactive, may find it difficult to settle to sleep at night, and may experience irregular sleeping patterns.


It is worth reading a few mental health advice sites to ascertain the depth of the problems.  I have made more progress with my ADHD in the 3 months since finding out I had a diagnosis at age 9, than the previous 39 years of muddling through life unaware of what was going on around me. The realisation is part of the healing process and learning to forgive the world for not understanding you or your life and how it feels to you.

I hope you make it, my wife has supported me and has always been there for me. My tip, is your sole mate is the only person you trust most probably and you can do anything as a team when you are focused on your goal. They don?t give up like other people do and some have already by the sound of things.

Good Luck,
Chris

[Han]

If you read her other posts you will see this started when she was sexually assaulted after which the rages started. I red them the wrong way round then saw the one in sexual abuse then it all made sense

[Blue]

on saying that Chris,that is very useful information,thank you.

also,lovegareth,adult asperges syndrome (of which I ,still,suffer) could be a root problem that's accountable to this too

[Blue]

The problem with the symptoms of ADHD is that they are and can often be attributed to other reason (such as abuse). Hence,professional diagnosis is essential,and this can often be wrong,using the label of ADHD to cover issues a health professional cannot get to the bottom of.

[ADHD Chris]

Blue, you are absolutely right.

8yrs ago I had 6 counselling sessions and was labelled as Psychotic which is why I only had 6! Not an unfamiliar label for ADDers, Aspergers and similar sufferers. But you would think a qualified counsellor would have picked up on at least some parts of my condition!

LoveGareth
I promote self investigation only as an aid to getting the treatment you deserve and require and getting through the timescales most people have to endure in the run up to a complete diagnosis and the start of treatment. Even if you only discover a few conditions which you haven?t got it is still a step forward and an eye opener to the fact you definitely are not alone with Anger, frustration, despair and Anxiety.
You have already started the ball rolling with questions on the forum, just keep pushing for help.  If you have a poor relationship with your GP, I would register with another for a fresh start and positive outlook. There is  new criteria now regarding their bonuses being paid in proportion to quality of service and levels of patient satisfaction, so they will be eager to refer you accordingly.(this is why they have been doing surveys for the last 18 months, to work out how much they will get).

I hope you find your answers soon and please try to remember, hating something or someone only hurts you, they don?t feel your hate. Letting go of pain is hard to achieve but it's the biggest release from torment we can get. My step dad made my childhood hell, with regular beatings and the occasional attempted strangulation for what? I never knew, until now, and that is still no excuse for him, but if I carry on hating him I will never be happy...I'm learning to let go and it feels gr8 apart from all the crying.
 It?s about forgiving yourself sometimes because a crime or crimes against you are NEVER your fault.

I hope your love helps both of you.