children!!!

[Rox]

Well............
Last night I started a new topic about how much I wan t children, thats it is on my mind all the time etc......
Today I went over my parent-in-laws to be and they told us due to my partners past ( medical--- He has had a kidney taken out when he was under a year old)... He may not be able to have children, and this was the first time he had heard of this...As they didnt know when to tell him
Is it possible you cant have kids,due to kidneys???
I`m so cinfused, I love him so so so much, but cannot be with someone who cant have kids....NO WAY!!!
How can we find out?
HELP!!!!! PLEASE !!!!!
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[Han]

Im sorry ok you have annoyed me a little which is hard to do. Why are you getting married because youve met your life partner or you need a sperm donnor? I understand your want to have children it is only natural but how can you say you cant be with someone who cant have kids when your supposed to love them enough to marry them? I think the only advice I can give you before you right this poor guy off is actually go and see someone and get proper medical advice. If it turns out he cant have kids then there are other avenues you can take like adoption....... or artifical insemination prehaps not the most romantic of ways to fall pregnant but if you love your man you'll do anything to have him in your life. I dont want to annoy you myself but just think what is truely important to you.

[shadyfish]

Han I could not agree more, how dare someone write a post for help and then say that. I have just given some sound advise and can only fill a little insulted. Marrage is about love not children, children are a couples combinationb of this love and as you say there are other avenues. If Rox is offended by this , well ime sorry but so am I and I am quite sure many, many others will fill the same.
Rox if you read this it strenghtens what I said go and see your GP and talk to your partner, you may have some sort of compulsive obsessive disorder that is destorting your jugment, as well as herting your partner you are hurting yourself. You have to act ASAP you are in a pshycological termoil.
Dont misunderstand me I sinsearly hope you sort things out to a happy conclushion

[chritler]

Adopt?