the heartbreak of trying to find my birth father

[micki81]

I have been trying to trace my birth father for around about 4 years now! I have tried everything in my quest to find him but every lead, leads to a dead end.
Reading through all these topics, of people trying to find family has shocked and upset me to realise sooooo many people, have lost touch with fathers, mothers , brothers, sisters etc! It has bought tears to my eyes as i know how heartbreaking it is!
I am almost 29yrs old now, and am very settled in my life, i have a great step dad, who will be the one to walk me down the aisle, however, there is a missing piece of me! I want to know what my dad looks like, to know if he has the same characteristics as i do!
I feel like i have missed out on soooooo much and would love to know what it feels like to have a "dad".
My mum walked away from him when she was 8 months pregnant with me, after she found him in bed with her best mate!
The one thing that keeps me from finding my dad is his nationality, he is from Iran and i have no idea , where in the world he is! All i know are a select few details, and i just hope that one day, he comes to find me! A wish that keeps my belief that he is out there, thinking of me, strong!
Good luck everybody in their search for their lost loved ones
x x x

[Admin]

Reading through all these topics, of people trying to find family has shocked and upset me to realise sooooo many people, have lost touch with fathers, mothers , brothers, sisters etc!

It really is shocking how many people have lost touch or never met loved ones. Not sure if you read the story about the girl who found her dad all the way down under in aus, just from a link our modertator posted ??! quite a great story, and just shows being reunited can happen so dont give up hope.

[lynda61]

I know just how you feel I have been tryin to find my birth father but with no information but his name it,s hard.My father left me and my 3 little brothers when I was around 4 or5 and his leaving has had an effect on my whole life making me feel worthless and leading me to make some major mistakes in my life My mother was not the greatest mum in the world in fact we have no contact at all I would love to be able to ask him why he left us with her knowing what she was like but I do not think I will ever get the chance to ask him that but that will not stop me from looking for him who knows may be one day I will find him until then I will just get on with my life and do the best I can for my own children

Reading through all these topics, of people trying to find family has shocked and upset me to realise sooooo many people, have lost touch with fathers, mothers , brothers, sisters etc!

It really is shocking how many people have lost touch or never met lovedones. Not sure if you read the story about the girl who found her dad all the way down under in aus, just from a link our modertator posted ??! quite a great story, and just shows being reunited can happen so dont give up hope.

[birty16]

 :| Im 16 on january 19th and i have never met my biological father and i don't know what he looks like i don't know what his name is i tried asking my mam what he was like but she just changes the subject as my other family members do. Thats all i want is to see him.I havn't had no birthday card off him at all i just want to find him can anyone at all help. Since i was 8 old enough to know more about it ive sometimes cried myself to sleep.I know have a step father but we argue loads i also have a half sister to which she had a violent father and a alcoholic which i saw him drink from the age of 3 to 6  and a half brother and another sister to my current step dad plz help plz

[micki81]

its really hard wheen ur growing up , esp when ur just 16 and going thru loads of emotions! My family never talked much about my dad but i always carried on asking and eventually fell out with my mum for over a year! I eventually got back in contact when she agreed to tell me more and she did! The thing is, my dad broke my mums heart sooo much, that i think it scared my mum, if i was to be succesful and find him!
I wont stop searching for my dad, but i do thank my lucky star that i have a family that does care about me, and a step dad who has been wonderful to me, and treats me like his own! Be thankful for what u have, rather than feeling low and down about what u dont have and, quite possibily may never have! Live for today and the future ahead! x

[Quartz]

My names Courtney im a 14 year old girl(15 next week) and i haven't seen my dad since i was 10, you all may not think that its long but hes missed the most important parts of my life; he doesn't call or email and he lives in england and i live in New Zealand and  the only time i get to talk to him is really early in the morning or really late at night because theres a 12 hour time difference.
i miss him so much, he always wanted a boy so he used to call me George haha and we used to play heaps of sports and go fishing because my sisters were little girly girls, me and him were so close that i never talked to my mum so when he left i fell apart and didn't know who to talk to, i didn't have anyone to take me to sports i felt so alone i just need him back