Please help me find my Dad! ( success story read on )

[Rebeccaweston]

My dad left my mum when i was 2, because the marriage wasnt working out. My mum then met another man and married him, but then he decided he wanted to adopt me, which my real dad said yes to because he wanted wat was best for me. So therefore, my real dad lost all his right's, when he signed the adoption papers over.
I know that My dads name is Darren Paul Smith, but has since married again and is now called Darren Paul Ayres-Smith. He used to work at Calow Hospital in Sheffield, as a high dependacy nurse. I have heard that he moved to Australia in 2004 with his wife and 2 children, Max and Harriet. Max is 18 now and  I think Harriet is 12.
I have met his mother and father (my grandparents), for the 1st time about a month ago. They said that they hadn't heard from him, as he left on bed term's. They have only had a letter 2 christmas's ago.
I have tried to find him everyway, I know possible.

I just want to find him now because, I am 23 years old this year. I am living back in sheffield with my godmother Nikita, who was Darrens best friend when he was in the UK. Im at the tim ein my life now, where i have a boyfriend and am happy. I don't want my Dad to miss anymore of my life, I want him to be there when i have children, when i get married I'd love him to walk me down the ale. I don't hate him for leaving me, because i have had a fantastic upbringing, if anything I love him more than anything!
I just want him to be my Dad!

Thanks Rebecca Weston

[johnfranklyn]

Thank you for sharing your story Rebecca, whilst I cannot help as I would not know where to start in a search for someone who is in a foriegn country, I certainly wish you all the best in your search and hope you get the result you want.

I hope you can keep us informed of how your search goes.

Thank you.

[johnfranklyn]

Hi Rebecca,

I don't know if this would be any use, but there is an oz forum about british expats. I don't know if it would be worth posting on it  to see if anyone has met your father.

The link is below

http://www.pomsinoz.com/?gclid=CLWvsfGZnpkCFQsyQgodJhu0DQ

I hope it might be of use in some smallway.

[Rebeccaweston]

Hi Everyone,

Just to let you know that thanks to the person that gave me the following address http://www.pomsinoz.com/?gclid=CLWvsfGZnpkCFQsyQgodJhu0DQ , has helped me find my dad atlast!

I have been in touch with him today for the 1st time in 12 years.

Thanks again!

Rebecca Weston xxx

[Admin]

Wow! well done john and we are all really pleased for you finding your dad Rebecca, good luck with everything..

[johnfranklyn]

Brilliant. Well done Rebecca, we hope all goes well for you.

[johnfranklyn]

I am really pleased about this news of Rebecca's. I think it shows what an imortant part this and other forums play in bringing people together across the world.

[Admin]

This is definatley one to remember (stickyed it)

[Admin]

keep us updated Rebecca let us know how it goes.. good luck

[Rebeccaweston]

Im flying to Australia for the whole of May this year, to see him. So will keep you updated.

Thanks Again! x

[johnfranklyn]

How amazing, you must be feeling so good. Everyone in the forum wishes you every piece of goodluck going. Australia is a country i'd love to visit, our thoughts are with you.

[Admin]

wow i bet you cant wait Rebecca, when you come back post us a pic on the forum, someones going to have a great summer..

[pammypants]

What an amazing story and what an amazing outcome. It has really touched me for personnal reasons.

I hope you have a great time in Australia and I hope that yours and your fathers love for each other burns brighter and stronger than ever.

I will certainly be watching the developments of this story with great interest. Well done to you and well done to this forum for a great success story.

Definately one to remember.  :mrgreen:  

[Rebeccaweston]

Thank you all so much for your kind message's!

I thought you all might like to see the 1st email i recieved off my dad, it has touched a few hearts and made a few people cry. It's so lovely!

So here goes.......................................................................

Hi, Rebecca, you dont know how long i have waited for this to happen, freinds used to tell me that you would be in touch one day and that i should be patient and wait. i did try to see you on several occasions but the need to consider your mums feelings and emotions made me re-think what i was doing, i did try to find out bits of information about you from people that your mum and i once new, but this became more difficult as the years rolled by. im not sure what your mum and grandparents have told you about me, but i always loved you and there has never been a time that i have not thought about you, i have still a memory of you when i saw you with your mum in safeways you where about 13, my freind Chris had to stop me introducing my self to you. before moving to Australia i left word with some of my freinds to give you or your mum my contact details if you asked for them.
 
i could keep writing, but at this stage im not sure what you want to know and i understand if you hate me, as i was not such a nice person back then, and your mum and i where far too young. i can tell you that i have another daughter, Harriet who is 12 and a son Max he is soon to be 18, they both know about you, as i have always mentioned you as they have been growing up.
 
 
we have an amazing life here in Australia, although things are a bit disturbed at the moment as we sold our last property to move to queensland, but when we got there no one wanted to stay so we all moved back to perth wich is 5000 kilometers away, so at the moment we are biulding a new home in a village called serpentine and having to borrow a friends house in byford, but hopefuly we will have the new house and pool completed for christmas.
 
 
i wont write any more i will wait for you to write back, please ask anything at all i wont mind. the only thing i ask of you is your forgiveness, and i am truly sorry for not being there for you as you grew up, but i thought it was the best thing that i could do, you see back then i had nothing so was not a lot of use to anyone.
 
 
Darren  (Dad)

[johnfranklyn]

Wow, a fathers love for his children certainly doesn't dwindle, he certainly sounds extremely sincere. I think he is going to make you very proud of him and he really sounds like a good and honest man

I thought I was a bit of a tough nut, but must admit it has certainly brought a lump to my throat.

I think your story will certainly inspire others to keep searching for lost love ones. Thank you for sharing this, it will without any doubt be an inspiration to others.

Well done and thank you Rebecca.

[pammypants]

That is so nice rebecca, I must say that it made me cry and for all the right reasons, it is really touching.

I'm so very happy for you and how fantastic that he has told everyone about you. I hope you go from strength to strength, it is really good to read some positive news.

I agree with John, your story could be a source of inspiration for many others.

[Admin]

, but must admit it has certainly brought a lump to my throat.

yeh me too thanks for sharing rebecca

[Admin]

That is so nice rebecca, I must say that it made me cry and for all the right reasons, it is really touching.

I'm so very happy for you and how fantastic that he has told everyone about you. I hope you go from strength to strength, it is really good to read some positive news.

I agree with John, your story could be a source of inspiration for many others.

I hope it is a source of inspiration for many others, it just shows you never know whats around the corner so don`t give up searching! and all from a link posted by john who took the time todo a little clever researching...

This will always be my favourite thread!! :lol:

[sparky]

If you are searching for a loved one, this success story will without a doubt encourage people to keep on with their search.

I've read the story a number of times now and feel it is really inspirational.

12 years of searching and the power of the internet makes it seem that someone who is half way round the world is almost just around the corner.

What a great ending to a search, but what a great  new beginning as well.

Fantastic, good luck I hope it goes really well.

I think it will be the favourite thread of quite a few people.    

[Rebeccaweston]

Hi All

I actually made a mistake, I haven't seen my Dad since i was 2 years old and im 22 now, so it's 20 years in which i haven't seen him not 12 years....

Make's alot of difference! LOL

THANKS AGIN FOR ALL YOUR LOVELY MESSAGE'S!

XX

[johnfranklyn]

It does make quite a difference Rebecca. Well done on your success. I think your strength of character to keep on searching will certainly inspire many others to keep on with their individual search.

Sparks made a very good point that it is an end to a search, but the start of a new beginning.

[johnfranklyn]

I was wondering if anyone else has had a story of finding a lost relative, parent etc.

When I was 16 and started the process of joining the army, I was extremely suprised to find out that I was adopted. The army told me, what a suprise.

I did get to meet my birth father some years later, but unfortunately we never hit it off, possibly because we were so much a like, that's only a guess though.

Whilst there are many positive outcomes when people are reuinted, there are times when it does not work out.

Has anyone else got an experience they would like to share?

[johnfranklyn]

Just been sent the following link about rebecca. She is off to Perth to meet her father, info at the following link

http://www.pomsinoz.com/forum/brits-oz/56392-does-anyone-know.html

[pammypants]

Hi all, I was just wondering if anyone knows how Rebecca's trip to the land down under went.

I hope her reunion with her father was a complete success.

[Admin]

we haven`t heard anything back yet, i imagine she might still be in oz ,maybe. I hope everything went well for her.

[johnfranklyn]

So do I. I imagine there would've been alot of jangling nerves.

[jamie123]

hi i am just trying to find my dad i dont know is name or where he lives i have never seen him i am 21years old i live in west yorkshire thxs

[Miss Piggy]

What a lovely and heart warming, succesful reunion. But I do agree with the Moderator, when searching for 'lost' relatives, it's not easy and we all don't get the reunion we all hope and wish for. And those times are just as nerve wracking. But you must always try and take your time with it, because at least you know where you stand and don't have a lifetime of wonderment.

A 'lost' relative came looking for me, to which i didn't even know of her existence. And although I tried my best to accept her and get to know her, she rushed head long in, guns blazing and firing off a load of accussations and consequently frightening me off half to death. I tried to explain to her to just back off abit and give some space to process all this new information and to slow it all down but she refused and ultimately it all ended horribly. I still think of her and wish her well. Take things slow and steady and take time to get to know each other.

I wish you and your Dad all the best hun and look forward to following your story.

xxxx