Sexual abuse

[Emma]

Hi,

I often watch Jeremy Kyle and know a few people who have appeared on the show. I think the work that Jeremy and the team do is fantastic.

Today I watched the show on ITV2. It was about forced marriage and the lady who's husband was a mental case  :evil: . I thought she was fantastic and I admire her courage to stand up and tell her story. She encouraged me to start this topic. I wanted to find out how much people were willing to talk about Sexual Abuse.

I am at the moment attending councelling from a fantastic lady. She helps people from all walks of life to come to terms with sexual abuse. Each member of staff she has is a surviver of seual abuse. The name of this association is "Break the Silence", which I think is a very good name as the subject is very rarely discussed because woman, men and children are made to feel ashamed and do not want to speak up. My opinion is that the more people who speak up the more likely we are as a country, individual communities and families can identify the signs and stop abuse.

[stacey]

i am 21 and was sexually abused as a child my family never belived me and feel i have to keep quite now i have a son and worried iv never dealed

[Trey1984]

im 24 and for the past 10 years or so ive had to live with thought that i was abused as a child and not being able to tell anybody about it. then i find out last week that my dad also abused my sister from the age of 6. i finallygot the courage after so long to tell my mother and she took his side and said that i was lying and then recieved death threats from my own brothers that my house was going to be bricked and that my younger brother was gonna brick my face in and i have 2 children that are currently residing at my dads address with my mum and i dont want them there as my daughter is severly deaf in both ears and is only 12months old and my son has a pulmonary stenosis and a heart murmur and he is 2years old, what sort of help can i get to prove that i am telling the truth? xx

[love gareth(ma sexy boyfriend)]

i dont know of this is the same thing but i was sexually assaulted just 1 month ago.it has affected me badly. it has made me have a bad temper and it has made me a completely different person.my boyfriend is helping me but ive become quite agressive since the incident.i need help but i dont know what to do.

[Han]

So this is what makes you angry? Or were you angry before your posts are confussing

[kxx's]

hello i would like to say that about a month ago you said you were sexually assaulted, its amazing you can come straight out and speak about this i was physically_mentally abused by an ex and it took years to be able to trust any, let alone speak about it... id say you definately need counsiling, before this ruins the relationship you are in now....
good luck let me know how ur getting on

kim

[beverley]

i was also abused by an uncle, at an early age i dont actually remember every detail or the extent the extent of the abuse, but i do remember one particular incident when the uncle came into the bedroom my cousin and i were in the same bed , i remember getting my cousin to the back of  bed in order o make sure she was not going to be involved (protect her) maybe. it is in my opinion i must have known what was going to happen, i have not actually spoke to any of my family about this.i was 7 or 8.  mum got new boyfreind who then abused me , no one beleived me when i told.i was thrown out of house at 13. this man then abused my neice. she never told until 7 years ago, she was abused at 7  i never doubted her, our family split , my sister and i were told not to come back to mums house mum chose the boyfreind. it turns out now that my sister has been seeing mum all along even go shopping togerther. my sister denied this in past but recently it has been public that it has been going my neice does not know, what i dont understand is why parents can allow these thing to happen to their children and not do anything and almost accept it as normal its sick.  i cant forgive either of them, they dont seem to know what the big deal is, a month ago mum told me i should  forget,and that it was my fault i made everything up. ( i wish ) . i have two children (amazingly) my neice i dont think will be able to bring herself to be able to trust any man long enough to be able to conceive any children.  i dont know if us victims of sexual abuse will ever be normal again, but i definatley think that there should be tougher punishment given to abuses , and the people who sit back and allow these tjing to happen to children should be dished out, then maybe all the unknown children who have been abused might be able to come forward and speak about it, openly without fear. these children are our future , i beleive that this is the reason our youth are such angry confused people. sorry for having such a strong opinion. but to all  abused out there . keep the head up . you are stronger than anyone .xx